I AM NOT MY THINGS

Want half a million of followers Zaklina”, “Want to travel like you Zaklina”, “I want your clothes, your shoes, your bags” “I want to have your life Zaklina”… But, I am not my things.

I’ve got so many questions like: How can I become famous, have all that beautiful clothes and shoes, bags, become financially free, world famous, traveling the best locations in the world, having so many followers, like you?

Now, my dears, we have a lot to talk about.

My life has changed just by being on Instagram alone, inspiring daily almost half a million of people and that number is constantly growing.

Stop focusing on money! That’s where it’s first starts. When I was starting my Instagram account money was not even in my mind. What was in my mind was: How can I be of service to someone else. I had a tragedy in my life, lost my beloved son Stefan in a terrible traffic accident, that was my strong motive to start my account. I’ll write more on that, for me life changing event, in some other post.

The wealthiest people on planet, they don’t think of how can I make more money, they think of how to provide a better service to other human beings. You have to change your mind set from “I want to make more money” to “How to provide something useful to other human beings” Money is a byproduct of doing what you love. Money will come, but your heart has to be in it.

Stop being or dreaming to be a trust fund girl or a boy. Did you get everything handed to you on the plate? I didn’t. And you anyway ask or assume that must be an easy way. Like, there is a short cut and I know it. I feel huge responsibility to share with you the truth. Cause I see, that many of you think, there is someone, somewhere, serving it, on the silver plate. By taking the short cut to success it’s easy to get burned. Forgot to read disclaimer? The short road is not always the best one.. see all that examples of a young stars, modern idols of these days, who got famous over the night, (at the age of 16, 18..) by the time they reach 25 they are already third time doing rehab, having many other psychological issues, or worst, they are not alive any more. Burned out. Sometimes, my beautiful divine souls, the short road is not the best one. To arrive to the point to have the daily life that I don’t need vacation from, I’ve took a long road. I could chose the short one too, but, I’m 50 years old and today, I’m a package of all my life experience, my mind programming and my expectations. I could also take a short cut, but what is beautiful about the long road is WHO YOU BECOME in a long road. Can you imagine how many mistakes I’ve made? Do you know how much I’ve learned by taking a long road? Do you know how many amazing connections I’ve made through the long road? So many of us in life, want instant gratification. “Want half a million of followers Zaklina”, “want to travel like you Zaklina”, “I want your clothes, your shoes” .. “I want to have your life Zaklina”… That’s ok : I’ll give it to you 🙂 !! But you see, the long road when you do the work, when you build the foundation to stand on, its a lot more satisfying cause you put in the work! You put in the work! and now you are receiving all the glory. But more so, you have become somebody truly amazing. On the short road, you don’t change, you don’t become someone great, you just get the prize. On the long road, you find out who you really are. Don’t be afraid of work, don’t be afraid of the long road because in the process, you’ll become your best version and then you will achieve it all.

Now, you feel lazy to go and make it for yourself, but you see, everything I have today, I had to do it, by myself. Yes, I had my family that loves me, my beautiful husband encouraging me, but when I was starting Realfashionist, I had to create all alone. Don’t wait for things to happen, go and make them happen. Loose this idea that world owes you something, world owes you nothing. When I started to take responsibility for my life I’ve understood I can live reality I choose. But, I had to loose my mindset first, of being a trust fund person. I stoped for looking the hand out, and started going on the journey with in myself. Start exploring your talents and your gifts. I’ve realized I have the talent, but that was not enough. I had to make use of my talent. I had to start sharing my talent. I shared my talent to grow wealth. But the life Is not just about being financially strong, its about health, wealth, love and happiness. We need all of that.

I realized recently that there is the cosmic law of exchange. I became all I am by entering this low. I start seeing what I can offer to another people. It’s not just about Me, me, me… I’ve could done much more posts and videos, just talking about myself, but I’m answering many peoples questions instead, trying to help them with my experience, or just sending them nice message to make them feel better. Many of us, we are consumers. What I’ve realized is that I have to become producer. I changed my life style in to half producing and half consuming. I don’t want to be 100% consumer, so I wanted to create something. That is why I started at first with my IG account, started making videos, writing this blog. I started contributing to other people’s lives in valuable way. That’s how I entered the low of exchange. Nobody creates wealth by having this selfish mind set “it’s all for me”

You have to find what you are good at.

What is Zaklina good at? I’m good at making people feel good about themselves. I am good at talking to people. I’m good at fashion. I’m good at sport and nutrition. I’m good at helping other people make positive change in their mind, and move to the next level, just as I have done. I’ve always been able to transform happiness, pain, sorrow and tears into the positive energy. “Realfashionist” is living proof for it. But don’t fool yourself that you are good in something that you are really not. Get really good in something. Read around. Every single day I read and that increase my knowledge making me independent and financially free. I’m reading about successful people from a business world but at the same time I’m learning from people like Thich Nhat Hanh (poet and Vietnamese Buddhist monk) who says : There is no way to happiness – happiness is the way.

You have to put work in it.

Read around your field to become an expert in that what you offer to the world. You will never ever become a wealthy over the night. Rome was not build in a day. It takes time and passion. Your heart has to be in it. Forget about money, forget about fame. Do it because you can’t sleep without doing it. Do it because it feeds your soul.

I started to realize that it’s time to stop waiting for other people to make me happy. You have to find it by yourself. Make yourself feel alive and happy. Money is fear currency, from gold we moved to piece of paper. But money is a tool. I had at the beginning just a phone which I used I to produce my content, making pictures, videos. Than I’ve realized I have to invest to become financially free. I bought a very expensive camera and lenses, I invested when no incomes are made still. But I understood that it is necessary to move to another level. What are you willing to invest today to change your life forever? What are you willing to put up? To give? And that is the way. Learn from people who are already are, where you want to be. Find your inspiration in someone from business world like Amazon founder, FB founder, Apple founder ( over a hundred billion wealth) you can learn a page from their books, to understand how they managed it. Or get a spiritual wisdom to realize that your piece of mind is the highest form of wealth. So when you put pieces together you have material know how and spiritual wisdom.

You have to have fun. You have to enjoy what you are doing. You do it just by having amazing time and at the same time producing. Make sure to be authentic. You have to be yourself. Tap in to your true authentic ME. Show what you have that nobody else has. If you do the same thing as everybody else you’ll just be like everybody else.

Be ready to work overtime. I’m always producing. Cause I truly love what I’m doing. I’m not in it just for the money, money is just byproduct. Start loving a process. I got to learn how to work smart. Be prepared to work on Saturdays and Sundays ( like me today finishing this article while my hubby is waiting ) 🙂 are you prepared for doing that? No? Cause you want to go and hang out? I’m also going out, going to the most beautiful places, beaches, but at the same time I have a discipline to always create. On the weekends too. Don’t regret for not being where you think you should be at this particular moment. For a long time I didn’t have even thousand followers. Nobody was watching my profile but I was keep doing it believing in myself. We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are. Start to learn how to work with people. Treat people with respect. I’m only as good as people behind myself. I’m deeply connected with people. I’m responding to your questions, visiting your profiles writing comments and many ask me why I’m still doing it? As I got already popularity became a “celebrity” ? I say: Because you are the one that get me here. And I love you my beautiful divine souls. So always keep in mind: Business is all about relationships. Accumulating-wealth is all about relationships and all about who you know. I don’t want to tear people down to rise up. I want to lift people up. At the same time still being truth to myself. Get out there, stop waiting for someone to hand you all on the plate and get your hands dirty. Realize if you truly want it, it will come! Most people don’t want it enough. That’s why it never comes to them. Love you my beautiful divine souls❤️

Love you just the way you are

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Realfashionist

Realfashionist is a piece of my heart and soul, that inspires me from daring elegance to smooth classics …from clothes to accessories that allow me to say who I am without saying a word. Building your own style, that doesn’t follow any rules, but simply expresses how you feel at that moment… shows who you are, what you dream of, long for, and sometimes the little desires you have. If you trace a line between 100 years old fashion photos and mine, you’ll see the common theme - lifestyle & character. If a musician dreams in sounds, I capture my imagination through fabrics, colors and style. It does not represent my mental state, but rather the emotions of the moment. Emotions that I express with strength & feminine force.

13 thoughts on “I AM NOT MY THINGS

  1. Zaklina, thank you so much for this post! I am LOVING your new blog💕 Everything you have said is so true. I turned 52 this year and the last 3 years have been very difficult years, some days I didn’t think I would survive. But I have learned that the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is very true. And I am now finally starting to live MY life and discovering and doing what makes me HAPPY and it feels so good!!

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  2. I needed to read this. Thank you so much for your honesty, today, while feeling terribly low , I’m inspired by this article to stay hopeful and keep going.
    We rise by uplifting others, stay true,
    you Zaklina will soar higher and higher.
    Blessings.

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  3. Thank you so much for this material! I read it entirely from the first to last paragraph… When you seek the meaning of your life with a lot of determination, there’s always a light coming to the end of the tunnel!

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  4. Grazie per le tue parole sincere e autentiche, servono a me e ad altre persone che ti seguono e ti vedono come una inspirazione. Condivido ogni tua parola e a suo tempo so che è un percorso difficile ma non impossibile. Credo che sia importante avere molta fede in tutto ciò che si fa ma è anche fondamentale godere del supporto e l’amore dei tuoi cari, quella è la goccia magica per accendere il motore del successo è la felicità.
    Tanti Baci

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